山外有山, 天外有天
In a recent hen's night, the bride (my best friend) revealed to us,
"He is not the best. But I only love him."
We all went, "Awww..."
Yes, how novelty!
My friend is not dumb. In fact, if you think sensibly, there is a lot of depth in her casual statement on her beau and their relationship. Only a carefree, optimistic, and perceptive person knows what is love, how to love and be loved.
I'm not sure about you. But I do believe in fate.
I suppose on the very first day that we were born, our lives had already been paved out for us: who we will meet, who we will grow old with, who we will love, and those who will break our hearts. No matter how much we yearn it, no matter how much we dread it, and no matter how much we try to escape from it, we just can't change our fate. It's written in the stars.
You see, love cannot be faked nor can love be forced. Some of us already have love with us but we take it for granted. Ignorant and greedy people like us tend to forget how to be appreciative and grateful for the small things in lives. We always think that the food on the other person's plate tastes better than the ones that we have on our plates. And in the end, we tire ourselves, our lives, and our time to chase for something that does no suit us at all.
So what is the definition of love? You asked.
Well, true love is:
• Someone who has flaws and yet you accept the 'whole package', and choose to spend the rest of your life with.
• Someone who doesn't have any dress sense, but still you want to show him/her off to your friends and family members.
However, if you love someone because he/she is good-looking and smarter than you, then hell no, that's not called love. It's called admire. It's called worship. Like an idol. When a person is near perfection, you crave for him/her, yet you are afraid to get too close because he/she makes you feel inferior. This type of relationship is not healthy because it makes you feel bad about your own shortcomings. Ultimately, you'll think you are an under par option and lose all your confidence. And to make matters worse, you compromise again and again, whenever there is a decision-making, just so the other person will not leave you.
Sometimes it makes me wonder why some of us are willing to become second-rate in his/her eyes when we can be priceless in others' eyes... ?
Oh well, I guess love is blind.
Ed note:
I don't know what prompted me to write all these lovey-dovey stuff. Maybe I'm just trying to console and remind myself that, 山外有山, 天外有天, which means outside this hill, there are mountains, outside this sky, there is a universe. I need to move on and need to get over the fact that someone I secretly admired is no longer available. Yes, my heart is bleeding. But I believe that it will be healed in no time. I'm a survivor.
"He is not the best. But I only love him."
We all went, "Awww..."
Yes, how novelty!
My friend is not dumb. In fact, if you think sensibly, there is a lot of depth in her casual statement on her beau and their relationship. Only a carefree, optimistic, and perceptive person knows what is love, how to love and be loved.
I'm not sure about you. But I do believe in fate.
I suppose on the very first day that we were born, our lives had already been paved out for us: who we will meet, who we will grow old with, who we will love, and those who will break our hearts. No matter how much we yearn it, no matter how much we dread it, and no matter how much we try to escape from it, we just can't change our fate. It's written in the stars.
You see, love cannot be faked nor can love be forced. Some of us already have love with us but we take it for granted. Ignorant and greedy people like us tend to forget how to be appreciative and grateful for the small things in lives. We always think that the food on the other person's plate tastes better than the ones that we have on our plates. And in the end, we tire ourselves, our lives, and our time to chase for something that does no suit us at all.
So what is the definition of love? You asked.
Well, true love is:
• Someone who has flaws and yet you accept the 'whole package', and choose to spend the rest of your life with.
• Someone who doesn't have any dress sense, but still you want to show him/her off to your friends and family members.
However, if you love someone because he/she is good-looking and smarter than you, then hell no, that's not called love. It's called admire. It's called worship. Like an idol. When a person is near perfection, you crave for him/her, yet you are afraid to get too close because he/she makes you feel inferior. This type of relationship is not healthy because it makes you feel bad about your own shortcomings. Ultimately, you'll think you are an under par option and lose all your confidence. And to make matters worse, you compromise again and again, whenever there is a decision-making, just so the other person will not leave you.
Sometimes it makes me wonder why some of us are willing to become second-rate in his/her eyes when we can be priceless in others' eyes... ?
Oh well, I guess love is blind.
Ed note:
I don't know what prompted me to write all these lovey-dovey stuff. Maybe I'm just trying to console and remind myself that, 山外有山, 天外有天, which means outside this hill, there are mountains, outside this sky, there is a universe. I need to move on and need to get over the fact that someone I secretly admired is no longer available. Yes, my heart is bleeding. But I believe that it will be healed in no time. I'm a survivor.
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