Are you The One?
"If you have decided to get married with someone one day, what will be the biggest motivation behind the decision? And how do you know that she is the one?"
He replied,
"I wouldn't know if she's the right one for me or not, but when you love someone until you cannot live without, then maybe it's time to propose a marriage... I know it's very risky, but no risk no glory."
He continued,
"Make it this way... Since there is a risk in everything, so no matter whom I choose to marry with, there will always be a risk... So, why not choose someone that i love to take the risk?"
Yes I agree with you my friend.
Marriage is like a bungy jump partnership. It requires a great deal of trust, courage and stamina to take the plunge together. As the popular saying goes, "You jump, I jump."
(But if you allow me, I will say, "I push you jump and when you die, the money is all mine!!!" *Hehehe* I'm super the evil.)
And the fact is that if you are lucky to have found a good bungy jump partner, then he/she will hold onto your hand until the end of the journey. But if you have the misfortune to meet a bad lemon, it will slip away from you in no time. It's all fate and luck.
"Then I will bet my fate and luck on someone that I love..." He said again.
But my dear friend, time flies, situation change, environment change and people change.
Do you expect your gf/wife to be as pretty as ever?
Do you expect your gf/wife to be as young as ever?
And do you expect your gf/wife to be 34C-25-36 forever?
Well some of you hopefuls may have the same opinion as his,
"Both of us will CHANGE to become BETTER together."
But hello my friend, do you know that the only person in the world that you can change is you yourself only?
Relationship becomes stagnant because the both of you expect the other to change (but not own self). And the road to happiness continues to dwindle from there onwards.
"There is a word called TOLERANCE." He raised his objection again.
Yes. But how much can you tolerate? (There is always a limit.)
You maybe able to tolerate with her now, but 10 years down the road and her attitude remains the same, will you still be able to tolerate with her then?
"That is why the bf and gf must find out if they are compatible with each other or not FIRST before they get married." He answered back.
Now Now my dear friend, aren't we back to square one again?
"How do you know if he/she is The One for you?"
This is going to be a never ending argument. I rest my case. What say you?
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